“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.”
However, Love is not an eternal asset.
It is fleeting. Some maintain it perfectly on the weighing balance. But some fail to do so and it keeps oscillating in between the scale moving either up or down. There are days when the partner has elevated levels of love and there are days when the feeling just disappears.
So how can we identify when the scale dangerously tips off to one extreme of the weighing scale? Is it even possible to notice it?
The answer is yes. It becomes clearly visible when watched thoroughly. Below listed are few signs that confirm that a partner is showing a strong ‘NO’ from their side:
● Lack of appreciation:
When a person who showed gratitude and felt pride in all that you did, suddenly does not feel the need to do so, might be an indication that he/she is falling out of place. The warmth, gratitude and affection should be on par with a relationship.
● A shift in perception
A person might have been fully accomodative of the other partner in a relationship initially. However, nothing is permanent in this world except change. So based on their observance of different kinds of people around them, there might be a change in needs for the partner on their significant one. As a result, they might be falling out of love
● Constant nags and fights
If a partner feels constantly pressurised or coerced into a relationship despite the innumerous fights that happen each day, it might also be a clear indication of a relationship drifting apart for the couple. It is perfectly normal and healthy to have fights but within a limit and one that can be resolved through sometime. Anything that exceeds a certain limit is definitely unhealthy. And if the partner is more and more inclined to start pulling up silly fights for no proper reasons, then it is high time one must re-evaluate the relationship as in to check if the love is still existent or not
● No more interest in planning out things together
As a couple, it is essential to plan things to do together. It might be something as simple as sitting down to have a meal together or going for walks or watching TV together. If the partner who was doing all this, suddenly off late does not want to do any activity together nor discusses any plans of future, is clearly at a stage of reduced love in a relationship. The partner who was willing to build a future with you in the starting stage of relationship, must never forego thoughts of discussing future plans. If at all he/she does it, then definitely the sync in love is missing.
● Flawed communication
If a partner finds it difficult to communicate their needs with the partner, owing to a lack of interest in them, it is also a serious symptom of lost love. Whatever issue (big or small), a couple must sit together and discuss in length about the problem to resolve and sort it out rather than hiding it away thinking that the partner would not help them or let them down, it is also a clear light that there is something amiss in the key of relationship.
● Lost appetite for making out
A couple can get connected emotionally easily through sleeping together. If the partner has been making their best excuses upfront to intentionally put out sleeping in together sessions, it also means that there is a probability of lack of interest in the relationship for one person. Whatever maybe the problem, the only emotional bond of closeness develops when two people atleast lie down next to each other and talk about their day-to-day lives and problems.
Emotional Distance: One of the most significant signs is emotional distance. If your partner is no longer emotionally available, doesn’t engage in meaningful conversations, or seems disinterested in your life, it may be a sign of a disconnect.
As we can see from the above points that we can easily identify whether or not a person is falling out of love with us. However, to make a relationship work, just like how two hands come together to make sounds, similarly, both the partners must be equally involved to make a relationship work. Otherwise also the other partner might be a bit offended that the relationship is not working out as expected as they have to do everything single-handedly without any support whatsoever from the partner. Be a watchful house maker wherever and how you are. It is not always a bad thing too to notice the movements and behaviour of a partner.
They no longer make an effort to spend time with you. They used to be excited to see you and make plans with you, but now they seem to be avoiding you. They may make excuses not to see you, or they may cancel plans at the last minute.
They are no longer honest with you. They used to be open and honest with you, even when it was difficult. But now they seem to be keeping things from you. They may lie to you, or they may withhold information from you.